Your quality of life 6 months from now is a reflection of what you’re reading right now.
The author Brian Tracy has already stated decades ago that you could double your income in one year if you would read 30 minutes of relevant literature every day. I am a firm believer that this is true - more so I have seen it happen several times.
We have all heard before that the average individual has about 70 000 thoughts a day, but more than the majority of those thoughts are the same each day. We question the same problems, contemplate the same relationships and approach challenges the same way. By reading the right, quick literature, you will naturally start contemplating new ideas and find several different solutions to your old problems.
In 6 months you could now how to save your money better than ever before, how to motivate yourself instantly, how to manage your time so that you have the best Work-Life Balance. The best decisions in life are the ones with positive long term effects and reading the right literature is exactly that - a long term effect.
Here are some authors who have written small and big books about how to change areas of your life:
Zig Ziglar - Motivation, Goals, Sales
Kim Kiyosaki - Empowering women to master their financial World
Robert Kiyosaki - Financials
Brian Tracy - Self Discipline, Time Management, Sales
Tony Robbins - Motivation, Time Management, How to create lasting Changes
Helga Rhodes - Assertiveness Training
...and many more
If you are someone who would like to improve your career or relationship, one of the first best steps to take, is getting yourself the right literature that will help you think differently!
What are you reading right now? If you are interested in specific literature that can help you best, send me an email or comment and I will give you specific ideas.
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Thursday, December 13, 2012
Thursday, December 6, 2012
What the extra mile can do for you
There’s never a traffic jam on the extra mile. Jeff Dixon
Your success in your relationships and career is related to what you do once you completed what is expected. I love the quote by Jeff Dixon: There’s never a traffic jam on the extra mile. It is true that when you commit yourself to become the best at whatever you do, you will always find ways to improve beyond what’s expected.
The “extra mile” can be education, a new skill, great customer service or high integrity. Not only does it feel satisfying to master new skills and do more than is expected or normal - it also creates fulfillment and purpose. We are so often obsessed with the process of a task or wrapped up in the expectations of individuals, that it demands a new mindset to think about what it would take to go the extra mile. This mindset however is exactly what can make you irreplaceable and increase your well-being.
What would be the extra mile in your career or close relationships? How could you stand out and would you commit yourself to that?
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Your success in your relationships and career is related to what you do once you completed what is expected. I love the quote by Jeff Dixon: There’s never a traffic jam on the extra mile. It is true that when you commit yourself to become the best at whatever you do, you will always find ways to improve beyond what’s expected.
The “extra mile” can be education, a new skill, great customer service or high integrity. Not only does it feel satisfying to master new skills and do more than is expected or normal - it also creates fulfillment and purpose. We are so often obsessed with the process of a task or wrapped up in the expectations of individuals, that it demands a new mindset to think about what it would take to go the extra mile. This mindset however is exactly what can make you irreplaceable and increase your well-being.
What would be the extra mile in your career or close relationships? How could you stand out and would you commit yourself to that?
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Tuesday, December 4, 2012
A quick Metaphor about the fighting Forces within us
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. "A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy.
"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego."
He continued, "The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"
The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."
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Source: http://www.firstpeople.us
Is Ambition bad for your Relationships?
Lately the downfalls of Ambition have become a common theme in our society and culture. As an example, at least 4 different popular TV Shows (Damages, Scandal, 666 Park Avenue, Revenge) explore the storytelling theme of the fallen hero who’s ambition develops into a ruthless restlessness. Ambition itself has become a word with negative connotations.
Our generation is often told to be humble and modest, accepting our life the way it is. Many of my clients in past and presence exemplify signs of guilt due to an urge to have more in life than humble circumstances. We are shown and told, that ambition will be our downfall and not only cost us the relationships in our life, but also leave us dissatisfied, restless and narcissistic.
The exact opposite is mostly the case. What leaves us dissatisfied is forcing ourselves to be happy with where we are at, even if it is not our truth. Instead of going out, realizing that we are not satisfied and taking control of necessary changes, we have started telling ourselves “It is what it is”. This costs you resentment, bitterness and grudges. Whenever you deny yourself a truth you feel within, it results in an unbalanced relationship between yourself and your emotions.
Ambition is not the result of inferior relationships or restlessness - an inability to set priorities is. Your ambition always needs to be in accord with your values of integrity and honesty. You can truly have it all, as long as you know what it is you really want and pursue a reality of satisfying relationships and fulfilling career.
What are your associations to Ambition? Does it sound like a negative or positive word to you? Do you struggle with feelings of restlessness or bitterness sometimes?
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Our generation is often told to be humble and modest, accepting our life the way it is. Many of my clients in past and presence exemplify signs of guilt due to an urge to have more in life than humble circumstances. We are shown and told, that ambition will be our downfall and not only cost us the relationships in our life, but also leave us dissatisfied, restless and narcissistic.
The exact opposite is mostly the case. What leaves us dissatisfied is forcing ourselves to be happy with where we are at, even if it is not our truth. Instead of going out, realizing that we are not satisfied and taking control of necessary changes, we have started telling ourselves “It is what it is”. This costs you resentment, bitterness and grudges. Whenever you deny yourself a truth you feel within, it results in an unbalanced relationship between yourself and your emotions.
Ambition is not the result of inferior relationships or restlessness - an inability to set priorities is. Your ambition always needs to be in accord with your values of integrity and honesty. You can truly have it all, as long as you know what it is you really want and pursue a reality of satisfying relationships and fulfilling career.
What are your associations to Ambition? Does it sound like a negative or positive word to you? Do you struggle with feelings of restlessness or bitterness sometimes?
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Friday, November 30, 2012
How to create an effective Dialog with desired Outcome
In order to have an effective Conversation and achieve what the so called “Feedback Loop” where Communication flows, it is necessary to have the right mindset. Luckily that mindset only takes little practice and anyone can achieve it.
If you want the conversation to flow and stay constructive, both parties need to assume that what the other one says is right and ask themselves what it could be right of. When I explain to an audience I often get replies such as "I just assume they are right??" or "No matter if I know the person well or not?". The answer is yes, in order to have free flowing communication with mutual respect, it is necessary to assume the truth in order to establish the trust. Humans a trained to read facial expressions as part of our exchange and if you are feeling judgmental, chances are the other individual is perceiving it.
What has been showing in Western Culture is that most conversations turn negative, controversial or skeptic, because each side assumes what the other one is saying is wrong and is wondering what it could be wrong of. You might have observed similar mindsets in relationship arguments, office disputes or family fights.
What assumptions do you have in conversations? Do you assume what the other person is saying is true or false?
Turn your awareness on and catch yourself if you are in a judgmental mindset, it might just cost you the outcome you desired.
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If you would like to learn more about Feedback Loops and better Communication, I also recommend the classic "The gentle art of verbal self-defense" by Suzette Haden Elgin.
If you want the conversation to flow and stay constructive, both parties need to assume that what the other one says is right and ask themselves what it could be right of. When I explain to an audience I often get replies such as "I just assume they are right??" or "No matter if I know the person well or not?". The answer is yes, in order to have free flowing communication with mutual respect, it is necessary to assume the truth in order to establish the trust. Humans a trained to read facial expressions as part of our exchange and if you are feeling judgmental, chances are the other individual is perceiving it.
What has been showing in Western Culture is that most conversations turn negative, controversial or skeptic, because each side assumes what the other one is saying is wrong and is wondering what it could be wrong of. You might have observed similar mindsets in relationship arguments, office disputes or family fights.
What assumptions do you have in conversations? Do you assume what the other person is saying is true or false?
Turn your awareness on and catch yourself if you are in a judgmental mindset, it might just cost you the outcome you desired.
If you like this, connect with us on Facebook!
If you would like to learn more about Feedback Loops and better Communication, I also recommend the classic "The gentle art of verbal self-defense" by Suzette Haden Elgin.
Wednesday, November 21, 2012
Understanding the Secret behind our Purchases
What is it you are really looking for?
What is it that you crave when you feel compelled to make a purchase? Many times when we hear the voice of a product calling our name, it is really an internal feeling we are looking to satisfy.
You might notice that some products you purchase because of their beauty, the confidence they might give you, the significance or recognition you are looking for. When you go shopping, what are you attracted to? What does this product symbolize to you? What is it that makes you feel good about your purchase?
It is a well-known fact that shoe sales rise when the economy takes a bad turn. We all can tend to live beyond our means sometimes and then often notice the guilt that follows.
We also have a need for comfort, love and significance. Especially if you feel a lack of any of those needs, you unconsciously look to fill it with a purchase. Luxury purchases are created to give us the feeling of recognition and accomplishment. The product however will only make you feel better temporarily, in order to make the satisfaction, real changes are necessary!
If you know the emotions you are looking for, you know what you crave. It rarely is the product you are after, but the resulted feeling inside of you. What is it you are craving? What is the change you need? What do you really want in your life, that might be missing? Knowing this will give you power and control to make your own choices and satisfy any needs you have!
What is it that you crave when you feel compelled to make a purchase? Many times when we hear the voice of a product calling our name, it is really an internal feeling we are looking to satisfy.
You might notice that some products you purchase because of their beauty, the confidence they might give you, the significance or recognition you are looking for. When you go shopping, what are you attracted to? What does this product symbolize to you? What is it that makes you feel good about your purchase?
It is a well-known fact that shoe sales rise when the economy takes a bad turn. We all can tend to live beyond our means sometimes and then often notice the guilt that follows.
We also have a need for comfort, love and significance. Especially if you feel a lack of any of those needs, you unconsciously look to fill it with a purchase. Luxury purchases are created to give us the feeling of recognition and accomplishment. The product however will only make you feel better temporarily, in order to make the satisfaction, real changes are necessary!
If you know the emotions you are looking for, you know what you crave. It rarely is the product you are after, but the resulted feeling inside of you. What is it you are craving? What is the change you need? What do you really want in your life, that might be missing? Knowing this will give you power and control to make your own choices and satisfy any needs you have!
Thursday, November 1, 2012
Quick Time Management Exercise
Here is a helpful exercise for you to understand which activities cost you time but don't benefit your day:
Take a paper and write down - what are the activities you use to escape from your workday? Is it reading, internet surfing, tv or something else? We all use different activities to escape our day when we feel overwhelmed. What is it for you?
Make a list and take the time to discover what you use to disconnect from stress. Then write down how many hours you spend every day on each of the activities.
Often we try to disconnect or escape and don't realize how much time actually gets lost.
Whenever you get overwhelmed or uncomfortable, there is a chance you find yourself looking for ways to get distracted. Understanding this about yourself is important when it comes to saving time for the things that are really important to you.
When do you notice you want to escape? Which are the tasks that overwhelm you?
In order to maximize your time and increase your Work-Life Balance, it is helpful to know what you are uncomfortable with, where you find yourself procrastinating and what it is you do to escape.
Take a paper and write down - what are the activities you use to escape from your workday? Is it reading, internet surfing, tv or something else? We all use different activities to escape our day when we feel overwhelmed. What is it for you?
Make a list and take the time to discover what you use to disconnect from stress. Then write down how many hours you spend every day on each of the activities.
Often we try to disconnect or escape and don't realize how much time actually gets lost.
Whenever you get overwhelmed or uncomfortable, there is a chance you find yourself looking for ways to get distracted. Understanding this about yourself is important when it comes to saving time for the things that are really important to you.
When do you notice you want to escape? Which are the tasks that overwhelm you?
In order to maximize your time and increase your Work-Life Balance, it is helpful to know what you are uncomfortable with, where you find yourself procrastinating and what it is you do to escape.
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