Monday, October 29, 2012

You become what you think about, most of the time

No matter how simple this quote seems, it still is one of the most powerful phrases to catch you when you feel stuck: "You become what you think about, most of the time." Brian Tracy

When you start evaluating where you spend your thoughts, you quickly see the worries, challenges or ideas you are obsessed with. You start noticing which relationships you give the most negative/positive attention and what consequences this has. The quality of your life, your career and  your relationship will only ever be as good as the quality of the thoughts you have throughout the day.

I probably read or listen to audio books an average of 50-90 Minutes a day, and I have heard this Quote over and over, but I still catch myself rethinking the same challenge like an old record. We all have a part of ourselves that tends to worry. Getting carried away with negative observations or judgements can be very easy and you have to continuously weed your garden of the destructive behavior you detect on yourself. So maybe you want to join me today in asking yourself the following questions:  Do you keep replaying the same scenes of challenges, or are you actually looking for solutions? Are you obsessed with problems more than opportunities? If your thoughts were your currency, where do you spend most of them throughout day? Where is your focus? Have you thought about what you really want versus what you are trying to avoid??

If you tend to complain about issues in your life, you already know a great part of you worries more than finds solutions. Try today to look for a solution every time you notice yourself complaining.

Monday, October 22, 2012

How can you overcome Procrastination?

We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot. Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of us know Procrastination but where does it really come from?

Procrastination derives from the deep down fear of failure and rejection in us. Most of us have experienced Procrastination in one area of our life or another and many of you might even know someone who has made a real habit out of it. 

Even though common, Procrastination can be dangerous for individuals who have difficulty fighting it. Procrastination is often the beginning to the habit of denial. Not acting on what you know to be right is what gets you in the direction you most likely regret.

The only lasting cure to Procrastination is to stand up and be honest. To say “You know what, this is not the kind of job I wanted for my life.” “You know, this is not the kind of relationship I thought I would have”. “I really did think I could have more and be more than what currently is”. As difficult as it might be, facing something you did not want to settle for is the only action which will help you change your habits.

Many of us guard our comfortzone more dearly than our health, our relationships and our career. We are so used to saying “It is what it is” or “it’s not too bad” that we’ve become real close to a place where we put our own wishes to sleep.

The turning point that changes it all, is to bravely say “You know, honestly, by now I actually wanted to have that job, I actually wanted to have a better relationship with my children, I wanted my business to run well”. The shocking realization of your own disappointment with yourself is exactly what you need to make lasting changes and get where you want to be. 

There are times in your life to be gentle to yourself, and then there are times to be brutally honest with yourself and what it is you are willing to settle for.  Asking yourself the hard questions is difficult at first, but becomes easier and more rewarding with every action.

We will always have areas in our life to work on, and at the same time it is crucial to face the areas which are holding you back the most. What would that be for you? Where do you feel like you don't want to settle?

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

The Greatest Enemy to Your Growth

We are defined by the difficult choices we make. It is our greatest source of insight and growth.

If you plan on gaining control over your circumstances and you would like to create lasting changes in your life, there is one great enemy to overcome first: Denial. 

As simple as it sounds, your chances for change and fulfillment are in direct relationship to your habit of denial. Every one of us has used denial for an area of our life that we feel disappointed about. None of us really likes to hear the ugly truth about our missed opportunities, bad habits or frustration but the ugly truth is the only real motivation you can use to change your circumstances. The moment you are frustrated enough with the honest situation is the moment you notice will enable you to do what is right for you!

Is there an area in your life where you should face your own frustration with yourself? Where do you soften your own disappointment? The only way to overcome is to face the fear and frustration to move toward control and change. You will only be as happy with your life as you feel you are in control over your circumstances. Denial will consistently prevent you from reaching control. Face what’s uncomfortable about yourself and decided to propel your frustration into motivation and energy! This action will have tremendous effects on your self-pride, on your fulfillment and the true happiness that comes with enjoying who you are and the choices you are making!