Monday, January 7, 2013

Build Resolve!

Resolve is one of the best characteristics you can teach yourself in order to reach goals, persist through obstacles or simply complete projects.

But what’s Resolve really?

R - Responsibility for your situation as it is present ( you are where you are because of the choices you made leading up to this point)

E - Energy caused by Frustration ( be frustrated and upset with the status quo )

S - Satisfaction from small Accomplishments ( acknowledge your success to build momentum )

O - Open-mindedness to new Education ( is there a popular self-improvement book that could teach you a skill you need? )

L - Love and accept yourself despite any mistakes you’ve made. You can never love anyone more than you are able to love yourself

V - Validate your efforts by continuously reinforcing to yourself “Everyday I am getting better and better, everyday I am stronger, everyday I am making the best of it”

E - Evolve out of the old ideas you had about who you are and become someone you would admire, someone who is everything you never thought you could attain.

Set yourself up for success and commit to building the resolve that creates true satisfaction, pride and a feeling of mastery!

Happy Monday!

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Sunday, December 30, 2012

Who's watching you?

It’s a well-known secret that our behavior changes when we think someone’s watching.

That applies to the way we gorge ourselves on Food, surf the Internet, hold our Posture or work on a Project. Since only 2% of our population have a natural sense of urgency, all of the other 98% need someone to watch over our shoulder so we give our best.

So I wasn’t surprised when I read in a book about healthy Weight-management that one trick is to pretend someone’s observing you when your eating gets out of hand. Our imagination can be our greatest enemy or greatest asset - depending on if you imagine the taste of a delicious dessert you could have or if you imagine a group of people watching you eating that cake.

So which of your bad habits would change if someone was watching? Who would be the person you least would want to see you like this? Maybe it is someone you admire, someone who’s opinion matters to you? Maybe it would be someone you wouldn't want to disappoint?

It shouldn't be the case that you only give your best when you are observed by someone else. Give the best for yourself! Walk as if someone’s watching, hold your posture as if someone observes you and eat as if people are staring until you are the person that gives her/his best automatically. Because... someone is always watching and judging you - and that someone is you.

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Monday, December 17, 2012

Are you a Genius?

 You could in fact, start acting like a Genius - right now!

It has been shown that there are 3 common characteristics, which all Geniuses have in common and you can develop them, too!

Here they are:

1.) A childlike Sense of Wonder
Looking at a challenge with a childlike sense of wonder, as if they had never seen it before. Looking at a problem with a ‘fresh set of eyes’, possibly with playfulness.

2.) A deep concentrated Focus

Taking the time to really focus in on one single issue, problem, challenge. Developing the skill of uninterrupted concentration and focus.

3.) A structured Approach to Problem-Solving
Structuring your Approach so that you can move from the Exploration Phase of a Challenge into the next Phase. Building a system of Problem-Solving.

Are you currently presenting any of these elements? You can use the same characteristics to approach your challenges and hone in on your Concentration skills!

What would be a challenge where you could use this skills?

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Thursday, December 13, 2012

Quick reads that can change your World

Your quality of life 6 months from now is a reflection of what you’re reading right now.

The author Brian Tracy has already stated decades ago that you could double your income in one year if you would read 30 minutes of relevant literature every day. I am a firm believer that this is true - more so I have seen it happen several times.

We have all heard before that the average individual has about 70 000 thoughts a day, but more than the majority of those thoughts are the same each day. We question the same problems, contemplate the same relationships and approach challenges the same way. By reading the right, quick literature, you will naturally start contemplating new ideas and find several different solutions to your old problems.

In 6 months you could now how to save your money better than ever before, how to motivate yourself instantly, how to manage your time so that you have the best Work-Life Balance. The best decisions in life are the ones with positive long term effects and reading the right literature is exactly that - a long term effect.

Here are some authors who have written small and big books about how to change areas of your life:

Zig Ziglar - Motivation, Goals, Sales
Kim Kiyosaki - Empowering women to master their financial World
Robert Kiyosaki - Financials
Brian Tracy - Self Discipline, Time Management, Sales
Tony Robbins - Motivation, Time Management, How to create lasting Changes
Helga Rhodes - Assertiveness Training

...and many more

If you are someone who would like to improve your career or relationship, one of the first best steps to take, is getting yourself the right literature that will help you think differently!

What are you reading right now? If you are interested in specific literature that can help you best, send me an email or comment and I will give you specific ideas.

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Thursday, December 6, 2012

What the extra mile can do for you

There’s never a traffic jam on the extra mile. Jeff Dixon

Your success in your relationships and career is related to what you do once you completed what is expected. I love the quote by Jeff Dixon: There’s never a traffic jam on the extra mile. It is true that when you commit yourself to become the best at whatever you do, you will always find ways to improve beyond what’s expected.

The “extra mile” can be education, a new skill, great customer service or high integrity. Not only does it feel satisfying to master new skills and do more than is expected or normal - it also creates fulfillment and purpose. We are so often obsessed with the process of a task or wrapped up in the expectations of individuals, that it demands a new mindset to think about what it would take to go the extra mile. This mindset however is exactly what can make you irreplaceable and increase your well-being.

What would be the extra mile in your career or close relationships? How could you stand out and would you commit yourself to that?

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Tuesday, December 4, 2012

A quick Metaphor about the fighting Forces within us

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. "A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy.

"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego." 
He continued, "The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"
The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."

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Is Ambition bad for your Relationships?

Lately the downfalls of Ambition have become a common theme in our society and culture. As an example, at least 4 different popular TV Shows (Damages, Scandal, 666 Park Avenue, Revenge) explore the storytelling theme of the fallen hero who’s ambition develops into a ruthless restlessness. Ambition itself has become a word with negative connotations.

Our generation is often told to be humble and modest, accepting our life the way it is. Many of my clients in past and presence exemplify signs of guilt due to an urge to have more in life than humble circumstances. We are shown and told, that ambition will be our downfall and not only cost us the relationships in our life, but also leave us dissatisfied, restless and narcissistic.
The exact opposite is mostly the case. What leaves us dissatisfied is forcing ourselves to be happy with where we are at, even if it is not our truth. Instead of going out, realizing that we are not satisfied and taking control of necessary changes, we have started telling ourselves “It is what it is”. This costs you resentment, bitterness and grudges. Whenever you deny yourself a truth you feel within, it results in an unbalanced relationship between yourself and your emotions.

Ambition is not the result of inferior relationships or restlessness - an inability to set priorities is. Your ambition always needs to be in accord with your values of integrity and honesty. You can truly have it all, as long as you know what it is you really want and pursue a reality of satisfying relationships and fulfilling career.

What are your associations to Ambition? Does it sound like a negative or positive word to you? Do you struggle with feelings of restlessness or bitterness sometimes?

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