How to give yourself first

Giving yourself first is crucial to wellbeing and success. When we feel good about ourselves, we feel more secure, certain and proud which in turn makes us more creative and productive. 

Each day you need to give yourself at least 15 minutes - the most success you will have in the morning - and think about what you want yourself today and in the future. What would get you excited, what can you achieve and in what mindset do you want to spend your day. Especially if paired with exercise, you can start into the day with a feeling of achievement, power and vitality. Instead of getting into a rut as soon as you get out of  the bed, consciously give yourself time to boost up your system and listen to music or a chapter of an audiobook that makes you feel confident and empowered.

Write your emotions down, the ones you experience regularly each week. This way you see where you are living right now. What changes of language, body posture and pace do you need to make to get out of the negative states?
What do you do to show someone else you love them? Are you doing the same things for yourself? What to you think you deserve for your life?

How telling yourself stories can change your life

Stories are one of the most powerful communication methods humans use and we use it since the dawn of time. The way we teach each other values, beliefs, warnings and exemplary behavior is through telling stories. The downside of this is that most of us don’t realize the stories we are telling ourselves on a daily basis.

Those stories are mostly limiting because we make ourselves believe that we are our stories. “Why does this always happen to me”, “I always attract bad men”, “I never seem to get the right job”, “things don’t come easy for me”, “it’s tough”, “it feels like pushing a boulder uphill”. Stories can be metaphors or simple one liners. What metaphor comes to your mind when you think about life or relationships?

There are stories we tell ourselves over and over until they define who we think we are. 

What stories do you tell yourself? Are those empowering stories or limiting ones?

Secrets about your Peergroup

One of the most valuable insights you can get is by reading the following quote:

“ The standard of your life is a direct reflection of the expectation of your peergroup ” , stated Anthony Robbins. 

I find this to be one of my favorite quote since it truly sums up why we make greater or smaller demands on ourselves. By having people around you who have high expectations in terms of fitness, career and family, you yourself will feel your expectations rise. 

What’s that mean for me?

Whenever you feel you want to achieve more in one area, find yourself peers that have ambition within that field. 

If you want to loose weight but neither you nor your friends are fit, you will justify each other’s lack of action. Reach out people with determination and you will not only learn more than you think but also start working for  your own success!

Whatever area of live you are not satisfied in, reach out to a person who makes this area a priority.