Thursday, May 31, 2012

3 Steps to quickly find Peacefulness in Life

Many of my clients say at one point or another that they would wish for more Peacefulness in their lives.
Our days are often filled with noise, busy actions, stress and challenges. Knowing how to incorporate a feeling of inner Peace can be the single most crucial factor to enhance the quality of your life. Without Peace, there is no Patience, no Empathy or Stability you can bring to the people around you.

Contrary to what most people believe, finding Peacefulness is easy and doable for anyone at any time. Here are three steps to quickly find Peacefulness for more Fulfillment, Rest and Inspiration:

1. Take silent time. 
The first most important step to finding inner Peace is taking silent time with yourself. You might have heard before about the Power of Silence, but if you are not taking silent time for yourself yet you are underestimating the effect it can have on your Happiness and inner Peace. No matter if it means getting up 30 Minutes earlier or turning off the TV sooner, the more silent time you have to yourself the more you will notice moments of Peace, Rest and Reflection. Once you start establishing the habit, you will become addicted to those Moments of Silence. Our minds are constantly overwhelmed and overstimulated with activities and responsibilities - in order to function well we naturally need Moments of Quiet.
If you are one of many, you keep busy in life sometimes because you are unsure what to do with yourself in Silence. We don't like standing still and reflecting because we are not confident we would like what we find. Rather we avoid being alone by leading a busy life full of activities and multitasking. The truth is, you can't run away from yourself, so there is no purpose in avoidance. If you start enjoying your own company and give yourself the gift of silent time, you will create one of the greatest overall improvements to your life.
Silence does not only have the benefit of bringing you inner peace, it is also the silent moment which brings you inspiration to your daily challenges. Try to find 30 Minutes of silent time with yourself every day. Understand that silence is a special reward for yourself and that you show yourself your own worth by carving out the time to just rest and be. 

2. Reflect. 
Once you found time to be silent and slowly notice you enjoy it, reflect on two elements: What are the situations you can improve your behavior and which are the times you did very well during the last day. This will establish constructive ways of quiet reflection. Most of us tend to get upset with our actions without truly looking at it for improvement or accomplishment.

3. Act with love.
Another exercise to increase your feeling of peace is asking yourself “What do I do for the people I love?” and then do those same things for yourself. Peacefulness is directly related to the amount of self-love you have and what you do to show yourself that you are important. Actions always mean more than words, which is why it is crucial to take actions that show the respect you have for your own mind and body.

Peacefulness comes once you are gentle with your actions, once you can enjoy moments of silence with yourself and you show yourself your own worth through actions of self-love. A quiet mind is so much more patient, constructive and influential than you can possibly imagine.

One Question that can change your Behavior

While I was working out in the gym this morning I was listening to “The Power of Clarity” by Brian Tracy. He brought up one of my favorite quotes: “What would my family be like if everyone in it was just like me?”

You can replace “family” with “company”, “world” or whatever else you would consider to be a necessary area of improvement. This is a fantastic standard to focus on when you consider your own behavior or the behavior of those around you. If everyone's actions would be like yours, how would your environment be? Our own behavior does have a great effect on the people around us, more so than we think. Especially when it comes  to individuals in our direct family and work environment - we set precedents every day.

How would you act if anything you do would become a universal law? Would your actions change? Almost similar to the golden rule, this question makes you evaluate your own behavior in a new way. Which universal laws would you establish every day?

What would your family be like if everyone acted like you? What kind of company would you work in if everyone was displaying the same behavior you do?

Wednesday, May 30, 2012