Most people in our society underestimate the effect of great Self-Esteem on our personal, work and relationship life. Self-Esteem might be the single greatest factor that determines how you will go about your life and what you are willing to improve in order to better your circumstances.
A healthy Self-Esteem goes a long way in helping you get along with the highest diversity of personalities; it teaches you not to take challenges personally and not to be afraid of rejection. When we are in a place of fear, we start acting as our own worst enemy as many of you might realize.
You will always live your life consistent with what you believe for yourself to be possible - so if you have lower self-esteem you expect less of yourself and less of your life.
How can you improve your Self-Esteem?
The first step to higher self-esteem is complete honesty with oneself. Many times we use reason and justification to act differently than we really believe we should act. Not matter if it is about how we treat our body, our friends, our partners or our neighbors - instinctively we know what is right but we reason ourselves into a different behavior.
Be honest with yourself and your shortcomings. Be honest with the parts of your life you want to improve. Look in the mirror in the morning and think about what you would need to do to admire and like yourself. Write those elements and skills down because they are the only things that will improve your confidence and self-esteem in the long term. What is important to you? What would you want your children to learn from you? Those are the skills you need to work on every day because you'll like yourself that much more.
Do whatever you need in order to genuinely like yourself. This might mean showing more courage, being more honest with the people around you or developing self-discipline, following through. The more you do in order to like yourself, the higher your Self-Esteem will be. When you think about your next action, ask yourself “Will I like myself more once I complete this?” If the answer is yes, go ahead. You might be able to lie and reason with yourself, but unconsciously it will always haunt you if you acted poorly or gave in when you could have persisted.
Self-Esteem truly means liking yourself. The more you like yourself, the more you will want to do something of value with yourself and you will notice areas in which you have more strength and character than you thought. It might take some time to be truly honest with yourself, but there is nothing better than the feeling of looking in the mirror and being proud of how effectively and honest you deal with your life. Avoidance is the mother of self-hate - you can only pretend to avoid your actions because you’ll never be able to truly walk away from yourself. So face your actions and decide now to do what it takes for you to be proud of who you are. It is a decision you will never regret because it makes for a life you can look back to and smile.